Identifying Gaslighting and how to deal with it

Identifying Gaslighting and how to deal with it

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that occurs in an abusive or toxic relationship. It manipulates a person’s behavior, causing them to question their thoughts, memories, and events around them. Victims of gaslighting can even question their own mental health. The term gaslighting comes from the script and later movies called gaslighting. In the movie, the cunning husband played by Charles Boyer manipulates and tortured the wife played by Ingrid Bergman to convince her that she is going crazy. Gaslighting, whether designed or not, are a form of manipulation. Relationship with superiors friends and parents experience this form of emotional abuse. However, one of the most destructive forms of gaslighting occurs between a couple.

What Are The Signs Of Gaslighting?

  1. You loose your identity, you don’t feel the same anymore.
  2. Anxiousness increased and you lack self confidence.
  3. You become too much sensitive
  4. You wonder if you have committed any mistake
  5. You start blaming yourself and start thinking whatever is going wrong is simply your mistake.
  6. You start apologizing quite often.
  7. You sense something wrong is happening but unable to determine what it is.
  8. You start loosing confidence on your partner. Yet blame yourself for not being loved by them.
  9. You often make excuses for your partner’s behavior.
  10. You of isolate from family and friends to avoid confrontation about your partner.
  11. You just feel all alone, powerless and isolated
  12. Lack of focus and decision making becomes extremely difficult.
  13. You just stop enjoying of feeling happy about the things you used to like. You feel worthless and depressed all the time.
  14. You question your own judgement and perception.
  15. You start questioning reality and delusion.
  16. You get disappointed on yourself, start questioning your ability and feel insecure.

How To Determine Somebody is Gaslighting You? 

People who attempt to Gaslight you know you very well. They know your weak areas and vulnerability therefore they play with your mind. They make you question about yourself, your decisions, your judgement and even your mental state. Let’s take some  example to understand this.

  1. They will manipulate your feelings and make you feel sorry.
  2. They make you feel insecure by saying people are talking behind your back that you are loosing sanity of your mind.
  3. They instruct you for a task, later they deny that they have ever said you anything as such.
  4. They hide objects from you and pretend they don’t know about the same. Later they blame you for loosing it.
  5. They insist you that you were not present in certain place. Whereas in reality you were present.
  6. They lie to you and twist and reframe conversation.
  7. They minimize your thoughts and feelings
  8. They shift blame on you and discredit you for your efforts.
  9. They use compassionate words as weapon but they repeat the same behavior.

How Can You Help Yourself?

If you find these signs of gaslighting, it is important to seek professional help immediately. If left untreated, gaslighting can seriously affect your self-esteem and mental health. Your doctor can recommend a trained psychologist to help you. Through well tailored programs they teach to handle and manage  situation and worries that is encountering you. Before that, please remember that you are not responsible for your worries. The person who criticized you, decided to take this action. You are responsible for your actions. Forcing them to make a decision, you will not be able to change their behavior. However, through consultation, you can learn how to make healthy decisions and how to set boundaries for person who is Gaslighting you.

If you or someone you know needs assistance in dealing with a mental health disorder, then call the California Mental Health Helpline. We provide reliable information about reputed mental health treatment centers in California. Call our 24/7 mental health helpline (855) 559-3923 or chat online with one of our representatives to discuss your options for mental health treatment in California.